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Thinkpieces on Gilmore Girls are widespread these days and as a fan of the show I’m not immune to having a lot of complicated feelings about this show.
I would like to state on record that every single criticism lobbed at this show is entirely valid. It’s xenophobic (Emily’s “spanish?” maid), fatphobic (back fat Pat), transphobic (that awful joke Finn makes in the tango club), classist (seriously none of them have any real problems), racist (too much to include), and just overall kind of anticlimactic and boring. But I loved it when I was a teenager with the caveat of hating everything past season 4 (I’m not a monster). Naturally, I tuned in for the homework assignment that was the Gilmore Girls revival and walked away from it laughing at what Amy Sherman Palladino thinks being a freelance journalist looks like.
Rory Gilmore graduated with a journalism degree from Yale. Yes, that Yale. She graduated with zero debt because first her grandparents and then her father were paying for it. They were all rich but her dad was mostly a fuck up so he got to inherit his wealth to keep his “down to earth” credibility (grinds teeth). From what we learn in the revival it would appear she has managed to live off of having a byline in the Atlantic, Slate, and the New Yorker and nothing else.
In a show in which they couldn’t even bother to have the ethnically ambiguous maid speak and actual language or have an actual ethnicity, the part that is least believable to me is Rory’s journalism career. She spends the 6 hours of this show turning down work and flying to London to hook up with old boyfriends. A website that is clearly some sort of xojane or Rookie parody is begging her for a year to write for them and she’s all “oh I don’t know” like apartments in Queens can be paid for with blue eyes and caffeine addiction. (Okay, real talk, are they just drinking coffee all the time as a metaphor for alcohol? What even is that as a personality trait?)
She’s also “collaborating” on a book with River Song and takes NOT ONE SINGLE NOTE. Naomi is supposed to be this drunk, erratic, emotional nutcase and Rory is supposed to look reasonable but I walked away from that scene completely understanding Naomi’s panic about a tell all book about how she hates her mother being a bad move emotionally and professionally.
Not that those concerns stop Rory from working on her own tell-all of course. Rory is above that.
The relatable part of Rory was that she was bookish, that she was clever, that she was smart. That she liked music and pop culture and enjoyed hanging out with her friends. Rory Gilmore was a generation of white teenage girls who just wanted to read and talk about books and get along with their moms. I am Rory Gilmore. We are Rory Gilmore. And Rory Gilmore is terrible.
If Amy Sherman Palladino wanted to actually give Rory some tension, she might have shown what it’s like to pay rent and get health insurance while freelancing. But no, we’re still focusing on romanticizing the art of writing like it’s too pure to have its ass shown. Writing is a grueling, labor intensive existence where you don’t get the luxury of turning down work because when you do that you don’t get paid. We don’t have rich grandmothers whose guest houses we can haunt. We don’t have $10,000 to spend on flights to London to hook up with old boyfriends who will just give you houses in Maine, Gilmore.
And that’s only if you sell the piece. Pitching is not a contract at all. You pitch it, you write it, and the publication more often than not will turn it down for a variety of reasons. You are the first thing to be cut. You are the first one to be not compensated. And then there is the timing of payment. The only publication that paid me on time EVER was Harlot magazine. Every other byline was either unpaid or required constant hounding to get my $30. Where were those phone calls? You also are liable to not get paid until your piece runs which can be months in advance.
Where was the working over vacation? Where was getting sick and losing out on the $500 for your student loan payment? Where was the rice and beans? Where was not going home for Christmas and playing utilities roulette to see what could go without being paid that month? Where were the roommates? Where was cooking at home and leaving the oven door open after you finished so that it would heat the apartment?
Being an artists and surviving is a privileged in many ways, and with Rory Gilmore being an example of a freelancer it stays that way. Freelancing comfortably remains in the hands of the provided for. Once again the biggest issues in Rory’s life are about men and her family. It’s never her professional life. That’s a back plot and a shitty one where women are mean to her. It’s crazy drunk women withdrawing book deals and site-running wunderkinds expecting her to have ideas. (she came to a job meeting with no pitch ideas, REALLY?) and her mother being a bitch by not signing over rights to her life’s story to her daughter. Rory’s biggest issues in life are because women are unfair to her by expecting her to DO HER OWN WORK.
But she’s really into books, you guys. And she likes going to Bangles concerts with her mother. And she has friends in the Life and Death Brigade. She never has to sacrifice. She never has to budget. She never has to consider her choices. She never has to go through heartbreak because all the men she’s ever loved come pinging back to her. She’s a revenge fantasy built for people who thought they were picked on in school because they were nerds.
I didn’t really want to write a feminist thinkpiece on Gilmore Girls, but you see, Rory, I need the views and the trending cred, and the discussion because I haven’t figured out how to survive off of one New Yorker article yet. Teach me your ways, magical hellbeast.
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- Get an IUD while they are still covered
- Start buying Plan B in bulk
- If you’re a queer, disabled, POC, or a woman, set up a safe house network. Especially if you’re an activist.
- Open your homes, resources, and support to people
- Take to the streets
- Pay the bail of activists
- Rally around your community and other activists. You aren’t going to like everyone and they aren’t going to like you and too bad so sad, we still have to advocate for people we don’t particularly like
- Donate money to social movements and organizations
- Fund abortion clinics
- Help your friends afford their medication and treatment
- Get arrested
- If you are a white, cis, able bodied person, get arrested first, form a protective cover around more marginalized activists
- Stop saying “I’m so sorry”
- Be an anarchist. That’s right, now is your fucking shot, libertarians. Take. Care. Of. Your. Communities. Buy people food. Donate money. Ask organizations what you can do. Fund independent abortion clinics. We’ll make it cool. We’ll call them “artisinal abortion clincs”
- Stop evaluating people on whether they are “worthy” of help and just fucking help them
- Your community is your responsibility. Learn about your candidates and vote accordingly and if everyone in your state is horrible, run. Run for school board. Run for city council
- If you are able to and can do so safely, move to a swing state
- Work as a poll worker so people aren’t menaced into not voting
- Stop saying you’re going to move if you are not directly oppressed by this situation. We don’t have the option to leave and we fucking need you. Our oppression is YOUR responsibility
- Stop hoping the establishment will serve you. We are victims of the system, help build a new one. Nothing good has ever been done quietly
- Use the language provided to you. Don’t “improve” upon it. That’s how we ended up with All Lives Matter and when you chastise people for advocating for themselves because it makes you uncomfortable, you are the problem
- We are the people. Our responsibility to each other is to speak out. Fight back
- Stop promoting self care and take active care of people
- Protect people in the streets who are victims of hate based harassment. If you see something, say something. White silence is white violence. You are complicit
- Don’t dismiss someone’s story because it doesn’t match your experience.Stop dismissing people’s gender identities or lack thereof, stop laughing at trigger warnings, stop questioning people who come forward about their sexual assault
- Fight with your relatives. Don’t be pleasing. Don’t be silent. Now is the time to terminate relationships in protest. Send the message that if they don’t see civil rights as the most important of issues, that they won’t get to spend thanksgiving with you
- Sharing videos online isn’t enough. If you cannot participate in physical demonstration, use twitter, write online, have conversations with people, educate through other means. John Oliver and Samantha Bee are great but cannot save us alone
- Maybe get a gun. I know. I’m super reluctant to include this but at least learn how to shoot one.
- Every day write a post at greatagain.gov to let President Elect Pissbaby know how he can make America great for the first time
- Fall in love, not in line
This list will continue to evolve over time. Needs will broaden and this was just the shit that came to the front of my mind. I will be adding more as more is suggested to me and more becomes clear to me. Your needs and the needs of the people around you are important.